Healing with Compassion
In our fast-paced world, we often chase success and wealth while neglecting our own well-being. We push ourselves, waiting for a moment to pause and address our needs. But what if we took the time to heal from past traumas, build self-worth, and connect with loved ones at a slower pace? Such intentionality could profoundly transform our lives.
I once thrived in the fast lane, overwhelmed by deadlines, social media, family drama, and endless to-do lists. Despite my busy life, I felt hollow. One evening, consumed by self-doubt and sorrow, I found myself alone, overwhelmed by harsh self-criticism and paralyzed by fear.
In that moment, I recalled a mentor’s advice: “You can’t help others if you don’t take care of yourself.” I realized I had neglected my own needs in pursuit of external validation. Determined to change, I began to slow down. I started small, with journaling, prayer, and connecting with friends and family. I also explored past traumas through counseling. Though uncomfortable, each step felt refreshing. I learned to forgive myself and see strength in my struggles.
Embracing self-compassion was transformative. I treated myself with the same kindness I offered others, understanding that growth takes time and imperfection is okay. Over time, my relationships deepened, my work became more fulfilling, and I found renewed purpose and peace. I shifted from defining myself by achievements to valuing my inner life and connections with others. Focusing on gratitude, I appreciated the blessings in my life instead of constantly striving for more.
Reflecting on this journey, I see that my life changed not by speeding up, but by slowing down and caring for myself first. Success matters, but it shouldn’t come at the cost of losing oneself. Through healing and compassion, I found a more meaningful and balanced path. Alhamdulillah, I am grateful for both the wins and losses that have become valuable lessons.
-Kadiatu Barrie